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  • Writer's pictureSasha Raskin, MA

Family Therapy: A Path to Lasting Positive Change | Family Counseling in Boulder and Denver

Do you ever feel like your family is stuck on an emotional merry-go-round that never stops spinning? Maybe there’s a constant battle waging, with each person staking out their territory and erecting walls of misunderstanding.


Or maybe, the house seems too quiet—quiet in a way that signifies silenced emotions rather than tranquility. If any of this sounds familiar, let me assure you, you're not alone. Many families in Boulder and Denver, Colorado, where I practice family counseling, have been in the same boat.


As a family therapist, I have the privilege of guiding families through these choppy waters. It is my firm belief that no matter how complex the issues are, families can transform their dynamics and communication patterns for the better.


In this blog, we'll journey together, exploring the therapeutic methods I use to help families move from chaos to harmony, and from misunderstanding to clear, loving communication.



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Unraveling the Threads of Family Patterns and Intergenerational Trauma


The beauty of families is that they are all unique, yet they share common threads of experience. One of these threads is family patterns—long-established behaviors or ways of interacting that span generations. These patterns shape our perceptions, our communications, our ways of dealing with conflict, and even our self-concept.


Some patterns are positive, creating a nurturing, warm environment. But, unfortunately, some patterns are not. It's the unhelpful, sometimes damaging patterns that families often seek to change. These patterns are often unconscious, quietly dictating family dynamics, and can take decades to establish.


Adding to the complexity, we often find echoes of intergenerational trauma within these patterns. Passed down through generations, these echoes can keep families locked in unproductive and harmful cycles.


However, I'm here to tell you, these patterns, and even these traumas—they're not set in stone. As entrenched as they may seem, they can be transformed. As a family counselor with offices in Boulder and Denver, I have had the privilege of working with numerous families who have successfully broken free from the weight of harmful patterns and built newer, healthier ways of relating.


Exploring the Panorama of Family Therapy Modalities


Family therapy is a bit like having a toolkit. Different families, different dynamics, different issues—they all require different tools. That's why I employ a diverse range of proven family therapy modalities. Each approach addresses a unique aspect of family life, and the beauty of combining them lies in creating a comprehensive, holistic approach to healing.


Diving Deep with Structural Family Therapy


Imagine your family as a building. Each person represents a beam, a pillar, or a wall—holding up the structure and playing a vital role. This is the essence of structural family therapy. It delves into the structures within a family—the roles we play, the hierarchies we form, the boundaries we establish (or don't establish)—to understand the patterns of behavior.


By mapping these structures, we can identify unhelpful or unhealthy structures and help families reorganize themselves into healthier, more functional units. This reorganization is not about assigning blame; it's about understanding what's not working and finding a new, better way of being together.


Deciphering the Codes with Strategic Family Therapy


Remember the last time you tried to solve a puzzle? The satisfaction that came when you placed the last piece and saw the whole picture? That's what strategic family therapy feels like. It's about identifying and understanding the recurring patterns within families and then creating new strategies for healthier interactions.


By applying this family counseling approach, we can bring to light the seemingly hidden cycles that maintain dysfunctional family behaviors. We then develop strategic plans that guide each family member toward healthier ways of relating. We're not just putting a band-aid on the problem; we're targeting the root causes.


The Domino Effect of Systems Family Therapy


Ever seen a line of dominoes fall? One piece moves, and the whole line follows. This is essentially what systems family therapy is about. It recognizes that a family operates as a system: when one part changes, the whole system feels the effect.


Using this method, I help families see how they are interconnected and how individual actions impact the whole family system. It promotes a sense of unity and shared responsibility. By understanding this, families can enact positive changes that ripple through the entire system, fostering a more harmonious and balanced family life.


A Beacon of Hope with Solution-Focused Brief Therapy


Picture this: you're standing at the edge of a cliff. It's dark and scary, and it seems like there's no way out. But then, out of the blue, someone tosses you a flashlight. Suddenly, you see a way forward. That's what solution-focused brief therapy can feel like—it's a beacon of hope in the face of problems.


You see, as a family therapist in Boulder and Denver, I don't believe in dwelling too much on "what's wrong" (though some understanding of the problem is crucial). When we look further than just the problem, I encourage families to think about "what's right"—to imagine what a happier, healthier future for their family would look like.


And then, we work out a roadmap to get there. Step by step, we chart a course towards that better future. It's like stepping out of quicksand and onto solid ground. This therapy model gives families that boost, that forward momentum to move from a place of despair to a place of hope.


Shaping Our Stories with Narrative Therapy


We are all storytellers, weaving narratives that make sense of our experiences. But sometimes, these narratives become our chains, especially when they're filled with negativity and self-doubt. That's where narrative therapy comes in.


This approach emphasizes the stories we tell ourselves and helps families identify and reframe negative narratives. It's a process of rewriting your family's story, not with denial or distortion, but with strength, resilience, and positivity.


Building Bridges with Experiential/Communication Therapy (Satir)


Virginia Satir, a pioneer in family therapy, believed that poor communication was at the root of family issues. Hence, her model, known as Satir's communication therapy or experiential therapy, focuses on open, empathetic communication.


Through various activities and exercises, I facilitate dialogue within families, enabling members to express their emotions and understand others' perspectives. It's like building a bridge—one that leads to improved understanding, respect, and connection.


Harnessing Family Strengths with a Strengths-Based Approach


Imagine for a moment you're an archaeologist. You dig through layers of soil, seeking buried treasures. That's exactly what the strengths-based approach is about. It's not about an endless and exhausting search for what's wrong; instead, it's about unearthing the strengths and resources that families often forget they have.


This modality shifts the focus from deficits to assets, from problems to potential. It emphasizes resilience, abilities, knowledge, skills, and capacities that can be leveraged to overcome challenges and facilitate positive change. It’s a powerfully affirmative approach that fosters hope and inspires change.


Empowering Families through Social Justice/Feminist Therapy


This therapy modality may seem different from the rest, and in some ways it is, it complements the others perfectly. It's about recognizing and addressing the societal and cultural influences that impact a family. This approach helps identify oppressive patterns within family interactions and fosters a more equitable, empowering family dynamic.


By promoting awareness and challenging traditional roles and biases, we can create a more inclusive and balanced family environment—one where every member's voice matters.


A Safe Harbor with Person-Centered Therapy


At the heart of my work is a belief in the innate potential of individuals and families. I hope that this doesn't sound like hyperbole, but I've seen throughout the years individuals, couples, and families create what can only be described as miracles. This belief in the human potential to create a reality that is different from the past is embodied in person-centered therapy, an approach that creates a safe, non-judgmental space for families to explore and address their issues.


The key elements here are empathy, unconditional positive regard, and congruence—traits that lay the groundwork for trust, mutual respect, and open communication. This approach serves as a reminder that families, despite their issues, have the capacity for change and growth.


Engaging the Body-Mind Connection with Experiential and Somatic Experiencing Therapy


The body remembers. It stores memories, emotions, and trauma, sometimes manifesting them as physical symptoms. That's why experiential and somatic experiencing therapies are crucial—they engage the body to heal the mind.


Through various body-focused techniques, I help families process and release the traumas and emotions stored in their bodies. It's not just about "talking it out," but also "moving it out."


Confronting Life's Existential Questions with Existential Therapy


Life comes with its big questions and existential concerns. Existential therapy helps families confront this head-on. It's about searching for meaning, authenticity, freedom, and interconnectedness within the family structure.


By navigating these existential questions, families can foster a deeper understanding of themselves and each other, leading to a more authentic and fulfilling family life.


Cultivating Present-Moment Awareness with Mindfulness-Based Theories


Mindfulness is like an anchor in a storm—it keeps us grounded, even when our thoughts and emotions are running wild. By incorporating mindfulness techniques in therapy, I help families cultivate present-moment awareness, non-judgmental observation, and a sense of calm amidst the chaos.


That's how we are able to have long difficult conversations around topics which usually lead to heated fights and just more hurt, or the other extreme - avoiding the topic completely.


Mindfulness aids in stress reduction, conflict resolution, and emotional regulation—key elements in improving family dynamics and communication patterns. And we get to practice these as tools during our family therapy sessions, which makes the process faster and more efficient and teaches you the tools that you can use outside of the family therapy office to stay calm, grounded, and present even in the midst of the most difficult conversations.


Incorporating Couples Therapy Approaches for the Whole Family


Relationships are at the heart of family life, and healthy relationships are vital to a well-functioning family. This is why I also incorporate methods that were initially designed for working with couples into the broader family therapy context.


Therapeutic approaches such as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) by Susan Johnson, Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT) by Stan Tatkin, and Gottman's approach by John and Julie Gottman, all offer valuable insights and techniques for improving communication, understanding, and connection—not just between couples but within the larger family system as well.


These therapies enable us to identify and transform problematic patterns and deepen emotional bonds, leading to healthier, more fulfilling relationships.


The Transformative Journey of Family Therapy


The ultimate goal of all these therapeutic approaches is to enable families to understand and change their patterns, communicate more effectively, manage conflict, and build stronger, healthier relationships. Each family is unique, and so is the therapeutic journey.


I'm here to guide and support you through this journey. With family therapy offices both in Boulder and Denver, I am committed to using these proven methodologies to bring about a positive, lasting change in your family dynamics.


Family patterns may have taken years, even decades to establish, but they can be changed. Again and again, I'm amazed that we can change the entrenched patterns in a course of as little as 5-10 family therapy sessions.


It's never too late to rewrite your family's story, to break free from the cycle of intergenerational trauma, and to cultivate healthier ways of relating. If you're in the Boulder or Denver area and are searching for a family therapist, reach out today. Your journey towards a healthier, happier family life starts here. Your family's transformation is just a call away.


You can schedule your free 20-minute long consultation here; no strings attached. This will be an opportunity for us to meet on a short video call, to see if it feels like a good fit for everyone, and get all your questions answered. Simply choose a time that works best for you here: https://www.heartandmeaning.com/free-consult


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